Getting men to sing, pt. 1

Getting back into writing after a few crazy weeks…

The last part of April consisted of working on our Good Friday and Easter services (which went really well…I’m hoping to post a couple videos from Good Friday here in the near future), and then the first week of May, Michelle and I welcomed the newest addition to our family!  Hansen Kenneth (“Hank”) was born on May 2nd.  Everything went perfectly and we are happily adjusting to being a family of four and the inevitable sleep deprivation that goes with a new baby.

This past weekend our church held a men’s event we call Fight Club.  It’s like a retreat, except that we host everything on campus so we don’t actually “retreat” anywhere.  One of the highlights of the event for me was leading worship for around 75 men, which got me thinking about the unique topic of trying to get men to sing.  While the basic principles behind the why and the what of worship don’t ever change, I’ve realized that the how (besides, of course, worshiping in Spirit and Truth) is and needs to be a bit more elastic depending on the “crowd”.

I’ve encountered various lists before that attempted to give basic principles on how to encourage men to sing in church, and since I’m fresh off of a weekend of putting it into practice, it seemed good to present my own list here.  So, here you go – Ryan’s list of things to consider when leading worship for men:

singing man1. Men CAN sing

This may seem funny as the first item on the list, but I think too often we sell men short and write them off when it comes to singing in worship.  I can say from firsthand experience that some of the most powerful times of corporate worship I’ve experienced have been in the company of men singing boldly, powerfully, and passionately for Jesus.  Not only should we not write off guys when it comes to singing in worship, we should expect them to be the ones dominating the soundscape of praise in our churches.

2. Men like substance

This one shouldn’t be a surprise to anyone.  Generally speaking, us men think more than we feel…we describe more than we express…we state or declare more than we emote.  While it is necessary for the scope of worship to cover the spectrum of the human response to God, it is simply more natural for a man to resonate with a text containing rich, descriptive theology or a declarative anthem than with a song that is more emotional in nature.  This doesn’t mean that guys can’t or shouldn’t be emotional; in fact, there are certainly times when it is only appropriate to respond to God with deep, pouring-out-our-souls-to-God emotion.  It just doesn’t come as natural to us – and that’s ok, because that’s part of how God made us.

3. Men like being led by men

This one may sound a bit sexist, but really it’s just an observation.  Here’s what is true: men follow men.  If you want to get guys in your church to sing, you better have guys leading, or at minimum, helping lead the singing.

To be continued…

Leading worship – service vs. ministry

I was having coffee a few months ago with some local worship pastor friends and one of the guys, a friend I have a profound respect for and who inspires me on a lot of levels, turned the conversation to the topic of whether leading worship is a service or a ministry. He was talking about how he has begun to see his pastoral role more in terms of the the things he does that are “hands on” or primarily relational in nature. At the same time he has begun thinking of his job as a worship leader more as a service to the church – or put another way, simply a way to serve a need within the body, really no different than the way a volunteer serves the congregation by cleaning toilets. His point was that a lot of times there is an elevated expectation for those who lead worship to “minister to” the congregation through our song selection, musical arrangements, anecdotes on stage, prayers, etc – whatever it may be. And while pastoring can certainly take place during the time of corporate gatherings, the reality is that our ability to minister to the church through the use of music has definite limitations and has probably been overemphasized in the landscape of modern worship – there’s only so much you can do to change a person’s life with a song.

I would agree with him – to a point.  I think it is true that the act of leading a congregation in singing praises to God is much simpler than we have often made it out to be (see Bifrost Arts video from my previous post).  Can authentic worship take place in a church where a volunteer simply shows up Sunday morning, picks out a few songs and gets up and leads the singing?  Absolutely.  Can volunteer, lay-led worship be musically and technically excellent and contain all elements necessary for a God-honoring corporate gathering?  Sure.  So then, is there justification for a pastoral position in a local church devoted solely to the oversight of congregational worship?  I would say, emphatically, yes.

At the risk of overemphasizing a distinction that may simply be semantics (the word for “minister” used most often in the Bible simply means “to serve”), I think the words ministry and service BOTH fall short when fully describing what I(we) do week in and week out – because they are both necessary components.  Over the past year or so I have been gravitating more and more towards the term “shepherd” to describe my role in the church.  A shepherd does many things – he leads, protects, serves, nourishes and ultimately devotes his life to the sheep.  Those called to be shepherds in the church have the noble yet terrifying responsibility of carrying out all these same tasks within their congregations.

So it is true that as a part of my shepherding “niche” I have the responsibility of helping the people in my church develop life-habits of worship.  And because of this, one of the ways I serve the church is by leading the singing each week.  This doesn’t mean that every worship set I put together will have people in tears.  This doesn’t mean I necessarily even enjoy every set that I put together or that I’m always pleased with the results.  But part of my job as a shepherd is to get people to regularly sing to and about Jesus.  As mundane as it may seem at times, there are few things better than simply leading a host of voices in praise to our Savior, knowing that each intentional act of faithful worship, if enacted with authenticity and for His glory, pleases God and helps shape the faith of His followers.

At the same time, I also minister before God and for the church as a shepherd by knowing the sheep – knowing how to uniquely lead this flock to which I’ve been called, teaching what true worship looks like, knowing how and when to lead the church in times of confession, thanksgiving, praise, and adoration.  This is all borne out of relational interaction, and plays a vital role in directing how the corporate gathering ends up looking/sounding.  Or, maybe put another way, my role as a minister shapes and informs how I serve the church.  The two are inextricably connected.

So both are necessary.  The church can certainly be served well by someone who simply gets up each week and leads the singing, but true shepherding really takes place when those times of worship can be led by someone who truly knows the heartbeat of the congregation.  Ultimately the church needs worship pastors who are more than just song leaders.  It needs shepherds leading a flock – the living, breathing, worshiping organism called the Church.

The presence of God in worship

This great post by Joel Brown, one of the worship pastors at Mars Hill Church (who I actually got to hear with his band Kenosis on Sunday night), has been shaping a lot of how I think about worship for the past couple months.

I think so often as worship leaders we feel like our job is to take people into this elusive place – “God’s presence”, as if was somehow hidden from us and we have the magical secret to how to get there.  Apparently it seems that this secret usually involves melodies, beats, and emotion.  And music does serve the church well when it does what music does best – drawing people together in shared creative expression, revealing truth about God and testifying to His glory, providing a vehicle by which we can declare our love and adoration to God, and moving the soul in ways that words simply cannot.  However, it ultimately falls short if we expect it to somehow serve as our means of entering into the presence of God.  As much as I love music and as great a tool as it is, it can NEVER take me/us/anyone into the awe-inspiring, life-transforming, culture-shaping presence of God.  Only Jesus can do and does that through the work of the Holy Spirit.  He alone is our mediator.

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